Being a parent is easy… but being an intentional parent is a whole ‘nother story. Being intentional means making sacrifices. It means we have to give up “our” time and muster up the strength at the end of a long day in order to show a little person that they matter. It means work.

But, the question that many of us wrestle with is… 

“Am I even making a difference?”

Do you remember the moment your child was born? That emotional cocktail of anticipation and anxiety while you stand in the silence, waiting to hear that first breath… you hear that first cry and chills start to run over your body and you yourself inhale deeply and breathe out as the joy of new life sets in.

What happens next is monumental.

A small child has been placed in your arms and into your life. Right now your love for them is untainted, unending, and unexplainable. But this new love also comes with great responsibility. You’re now a teacher and a leader.

August 13th, 2014

To be a good teacher, we must not only give them the tools in life that they need but also show them how to use them. To make a difference, we need to be willing to dive into a story with them, and get excited about it and help them to understand why it matters so much, that it is valuable. Ask questions that make them think. Try to understand the thoughts bouncing around in their little noggin. It pays off.

It paid off for me on a Saturday morning when my son woke up early and saw mom at the table reading her devotion and decided to grab his own bible and join in. This is the photo my wife sent me while I was still asleep.

Now, If you’re reading this, you have a decision to make. You can do what’s easy and check out, or you can choose to be intentional and see your child for the gift that they truly are… over and over and over again.

Take responsibility for that small set of watchful eyes and close-listening ears. I think sometimes we tend to over-complicate parenting. What does it take to be a good parent?

It’s not always what we say, but it’s how we live.

We can learn to be intentional and we can start with love.

Out of love comes trust, out of trust comes influence, and out of influence comes impact.

The truth is…
Parenting can be scary.
It will never be perfect,
It won’t always be easy,
and it demands change.
But you have what it takes.
And boy, is it worth it.
But you have what it takes.
And boy, is it worth it.

2 years old in Bandon, Oregon.

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